![]() When it comes to making good decisions, psychologists have found that investing is a field where humans are surprisingly bad at doing the right thing. We have sessions available seven days a week at our Clapham and Tooting centres.In the first of a multi-part series on avoiding investment mistakes, Ben looks at how our own emotions and behaviour can lead to poor decisions, and what we can do about it. To book an initial appointment with one of our therapists, call 020 8673 4545 or email. They can also help you start making changes so you are less of a servant to your moods and will learn tools to master them. Therapists can help you identify the behaviours that are no longer serving you. If your reactiveness if causing major issues, it may help to work through them with a professional. What I’d like you to do is text me if you can’t call at the time we talked about.” The way you communicate can radically affect how reactive you are. Try saying instead: “When you didn’t call me at the time we’d agreed, I began to feel overlooked and forgotten. Instead of blaming other people saying things like “you made me angry when you forgot to call me”, try owning your feelings and taking responsibility for them. Or it may simply mean taking some time out to check in with yourself and see how you’re feeling so you can aim to feel more grounded and in tune with yourself. This may involve static, calming things such as meditation or mindfulness dynamic activities such as exercise and fitness and creative pursuits such as writing, drawing, colouring, cooking or gardening. Build activities into your week that will replenish rather than drain you. Replenish your energyįeeling drained and depleted can make you more reactive than normal because you have fewer energy supplies to draw on. Next time you feel you’re about to react, you can recognise it for what it is: just a trigger. When the situation has calmed, look back at your reactions and aim to understand the underlying emotion that may be triggering you. Instead of allowing yourself to react, notice each time you were about to react and make a note of it. Over a period of time, aim to develop a part of you that ‘observes’ what you’re thinking, feeling and doing. This may take some time to work out what’s really irking you, but it can support you to become way less reactive. Is it the situation, or is it some dynamic within the situation that is pressing on an old wound? Get to know your triggers When you feel yourself about to explode or rage at a situation, take a deep breath and consider what’s really going on here. Take a breathīuy yourself a millisecond of time before you react. Tell yourself that you’re not the victim of circumstances, and you can choose how to respond when things don’t go your way. This may involve reframing how you experience life. Some tips to support you to be less reactive Think about responding rather than reacting You can feel powerlessness with little sense of agency. ![]()
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